Many people work hard, but they don't seem to get anywhere worthwhile, so every year the resolution-merry-go-round comes, and then goes as quickly.
Personally I don't believe in New Year resolutions : to me they sounds like something that we should do,that might be good for us, but boy they are such a pain and sacrifice that we give up at the first obstacle or opportunity ( let's face it, we give up quite easily too ).
I know about this all too well with my past resolution to "go to the gym", " exercise" and so on... I'm simply not an exercise person, it doesn't do anything for me, it doesn't excite me. I love art, architecture, history, beautiful things , this is what I love and I found something to satisfy all my needs instead: walking.
I can meditate and listen to tapes whilst doing it, look at my surroundings and admire beautiful things ( ok, not always, but you know what I mean), it gets me places and I can do it in No Extra Time to normal life
plus it is free.
Et voila, I'm exercising ... ;-)
Back to the subject, a key reason why people feel they are not getting anywhere is that they haven't spent enough time thinking about what they really
want from life, and haven't set themselves formal goals.
Goal setting (not target setting or tasks listing) is a powerful process for thinking about the ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn the vision of this future into reality, "goals are dreams with deadlines"
-quote - Tony Robbins.
The process of setting goals helps choosing where you want to go in life.
Top-level athletes, successful business-people and achievers in all fields all set goals. Setting goals gives long-term vision and short-term motivation, focuses acquisition of knowledge, and helps organising time and resources so that one can make the very most of life.
Clearly defined goals can be measured and the forward progress tracked, instead of a long pointless grind, and this creates self-perpetuating confidence ( the further progress, the more confidence, the more confidence, the more achievement and progress, and so on).
The first step is to create the"big picture" of what you want to do with your life - longer term - and identify the large-scale goals that you want to achieve.
Then, break these down, smaller and smaller, into targets that you must hit to reach the lifetime goals.
You can then start working to achieve these goals.
The important thing is to choose well:what are you passionate about? What do you really want to be and do in life? What is really important to you? Ask yourself, what would I want for my life if I knew I could have anything I wanted?
What would I go for if I knew I could not fail?
The next is to know the why: why do you want to be and do all those things? What will they give you?
Do not question or doubt your capability and dream big.
Setting goals that are outside your comfort zone of know-how and confidence causes resistance that shows up as fear and/or anxiety. Setting big goals and reviewing them regularly can be incredibly uncomfortable because it highlights one own scepticism about self-worth and abilities.
Our lives reflect exactly where we feel we should be, the level where we feel safe.
When you set goal that are substantially beyond your current reality, you are opening the imaginative, visionary part of your mind (opposed to the linear, analytical part) and unleash the creativity in you.
When we set a goal that is only incrementally bigger than where we are now, we do not consider the bigger vision of what is possible (that's why you must start with the dream first and THEN break it down).
Set goals for each area of your life, write them down and review them regularly :
- Personal development goals (what type of person do you want to be)
- Career/business/economic goals (what do you want to achieve)
- Fun goals (what do want to experience)
- Contribution goals (what do you want to give)
Achieving big goals require a change in thinking, actions and, sometime, in self-identity.
Big goals inspire and motivate.
" When you begin to believe that anything is possible, anything is possible"
Margaret M. Lynch
So #DreamBig and #make2017great xxx