Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want....

  • By The Alchemist About Town
  • 27 Nov, 2017

Smash Your Ceiling to Smash That Ceiling

Women on Boards or lack of them is still a current topic - women in leadership represent 12 % average of total  global companies worldwide. Are you a woman who wants to progress in your career and become Board Director? Or do you?
Do you know what you want, what you really really want and why do you want it?

Success means so many different things to so many different people; a recent survey carried out by LinkedIn showed that 4 out 5 Britons have different definition of success.
What does success means to you? 
The Maslow Hierarchy of Needs (often represented by a pyramid) is one of motivational theories trying to decipher what drives “ human beings”. Maslow advocates that people need to first realise primary most essential needs before they can proceed to the advanced ones at the top of the pyramid ( as in main picture) . Similarly to Maslow Tony Robbins , in his programs and many books, talks about in a more fluid & less hierarchical way the same drivers of human behaviours:

- Certainty and security

- Uncertainty and variety

- Significance

- Love & Connection

- Growth

- Contribution

My point here is that, on top of the infrastructural belief system based on cultural, religious (or non-religious) & family paradigms, there are basic human needs that need to be fulfilled, success is a relative thing: what is your why?

Remember: everyone pays a price - men , women, everyone: what is the price you are prepared to pay ?
Leadership requires 100% commitment.

I can hear the noise, the mumbling rising....
STOP IT! Stop making excuses, it is all BS....
The barriers women face in a corporate environment and as business owners are the same ( societal, religious, patriarchal and family paradigms), including childcare nevertheless women business ownership makes up 25-33% of total business owners compared to 12% of women on global boards ( source Mastercard Index of Women Entrepreneurs 2017 - MIWE) : when the why is big enough you can achieve anything.

And, as a business owner/founder the buck stops with you: yes you have choice over flexibility but there is no big corporate support ad/or benefits and the customers/suppliers keep on knocking on that door and what needs doing, needs doing. So , decide what you want, what you really really ant and then  go for it -  silence you inner critic - do you and what works for you  but stop external forces control your life. It all starts  in your head.

If you are juggling motherhood with a boardroom/ascending career remember : Wonder Woman does not exists!
True feminism means accepting both the reality of motherhood and celebrating its real value to society but also have equal opportunities to make a choice on how you would like to deal with your career and motherhood without having  to apologise if you are ambitious and wan to go back to work asap or take a few years off.

Perfection is boring; be awesome instead

This is blog is an extract from my book
"S TOP IT! It is all in your head"   Part II: Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want.
To read extract from Part I:
Blah, Blah, Blah .
To see how the book was developed/written : "
What is the best way to write a book in 30 days"

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By The Alchemist About Town 16 Dec, 2017

Pre-Christmas shopping has now reached epic proportions; presumably most people missed the memo that the shops re-open in a few days  (even on Boxing Day, amazing non?) and there is no need to stockpile like we're just about to enter WW3.  

Giving presents is part of Christmas, but it is only a small part of it;  the pressure to buy things and "create a holiday" can be very stressful and is unrelated to what many consider the original reason for Christmas, to celebrate the birth of Christ. 
Even though Christmas may have now morphed into a secular holiday for many people,  I think it is important to remember , religious/observing or not, to enjoy it and spend the day with family, friends and/or loved ones. 

These times are precious and laughter and memories last a lifetime much more than the latest gadget or "in" thing, don't waste them. Share the love.


By The Alchemist About Town 11 Dec, 2017

In every story, every hero is helped through his/her journey when meeting a mentor and then allies along the way.

"Emerging leaders need a mentor to guide them, but they also need a network of peers , to reassure them that they are not on the path alone” Alyse Nelson , President and CEO of Viva Voices.

The percentage of women on board is increasing both on a voluntary basis and/or with mandatory boards targets but there is still a lack of visible female leadership models, women to inspire and empower women. Women are every good at sharing a lot of things but having a good mentor does not often seem to be one.

I had in my life women I looked up to them as examples, beacons of what is possible to achieve if you are really determined;  not perfect women by any means, but I am who I am today because of them:

Coco Chanel: a Business Woman ahead of her time ,
Anna Wintour: a fashion pioneer ,
Jackie Kennedy: quiet leadership ,
Margaret Thatcher: love or hate her , you cannot forget her
In a world full of Kim Kardshians, Be an Audrey
Josephine Baker: did the Banana skirt start it all?

I'm passionate about inspiring/empowering/helping women in making the most of their circumstances with the tools they have available and grabbing the opportunities that life presents - without using excuses of why they can't and I wanted to find and  provide some virtual mentors/ allies/ role models to show you their “call to adventure’, their crossing of thresholds together with perhaps tests, allies and maybe enemies.

I have interviewed many women in leadership roles, CEOs,MDs and/or Founder/s of their owns very successful company for my book: you might have read some of them already ( Natasha Makhijani , Rachel Dipper , Jackie Smithen , Emmajane Taylor-Moran , Karen Green , Liz Ward , Ela Slutski & Galit Bauer ). Each of them had a different journey but they all had something in common - self belief and pursuing their goal no matter what.

What is your journey? Do you have a mentor?
The Women in Leadership interviews ( contained in my book STOP IT! It is all in your head ) are my gift to you - THE HERO JOURNEY of some real models and perhaps some virtual role model for women out there on their way to the top.

“If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want, and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same results”
Tony Robbins.

" Believe in Yourself, You Can - Define your legacy".

This is blog is an extract from my book
"S TOP IT! It is all in your head"   Part IV: The Hero Journey .
Click here to Read:
Part III:
Think Outside The Box: What Box? 
Part II: Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want .
Part I: Blah, Blah, Blah .
To see how the book was developed/written : " What is the best way to write a book in 30 days"
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