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Resilience: Connection 

Hi everyone, welcome back.

As we are heading towards the end of this month, and with it, the end of our focus on ‘resilience’, I wanted to touch on a subject of phenomenal importance: Connection.

What is connection and what does it have to do with resilience?

According to Dr Ginsberg, child paediatrician and human development expert, there are 7 Cs of resilience, namely: competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control

We have discussed coping and control and touched on contribution.

For today, we will focus on connection and how this connection is part of our basic needs as a species.

And yes, I know that it may sound daunting or even complicated. But we, as humans love and thrive on connection. We look for this connection in relationships and in our social groups.

Our need, and yes, it is a need, to be heard, to know that we matter and that we make a difference is weaved into the fabric of our being.

Why do we have a need to be connected? 

According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, once our basic needs, these being aspects such as food, water, shelter, and security are met, we move on to a different sort of need.

A need for love and belonging. We can even go a step further to say that we need to be respected, acknowledged, and held in high esteem.

On a closer look at these needs, we can see that it is a need for connection.

It is through connection that we love, that we feel like we belong. Through this that we find external respect, acknowledgement, or elevated esteem.

Remember that I mention external here as all of this falls away if you don’t first love yourself.

Our social groups are important, so are our support structures.

As much as we come to rely on ourselves, knowing that someone has our back, in any capacity, breeds confidence and determination.

As much as resilience is about bouncing back from adversity, having the right people in your corner makes a world of difference.

So, ask yourself this: Do my connections have my back – and do I have theirs?

It is a two-way street after all – you must give to receive.

Until next time x